It is Mothers' Day today and I observed the complex that I work in was busy and bustling with families, all out to celebrate the occasion with the mothers. I called my mom this morning to wish her a Happy Mother's Day... I would have planned something for her today but my younger brother who is back for a holiday from the US is not in town today so we made arrangements to have dinner together tomorrow. I'm hardly the best son but I do try my best for my mom.
We constantly tell all those whom we care about how much we care for them and how much we love them... but do we ever show it? Do we have to have a reason to call someone we love? My mom calls me quite frequently and if I fail to hear from her for two days, I would call her... and when I do, she would ask me why I call... and my answer as always will be... I'm your son... do I have to have a reason? Sometimes it does slip my mind too but I will always call when I remember. Too bad my mom still doesn't know how to SMS despite all the attempts to teach her... otherwise I will be bugging her with SMSes too.
I love my mom... a lot... and there is only one other person on the face of this earth whom I love as much and maybe even more... my sweetheart Ayue.
In April, I did something bad... I lost my cool and actually raised my voice at my mom... first time ever in my 40 years of existence. It happened while I was driving and she was in the car with me. As soon as I did it, I realised what an ass I was... tears emerged in my eyes... I soon parked the car, did my errand quickly and before I got back in the car, I went to the backseat and hugged my mom and apologized for being such an ass... crying as I did so. My mom was cool... she just said... It's ok... don't be so sensitive.
We children are generally an ungrateful bunch... we never appreciate our parents... and even if we do, most of us just say that we do... our parents make all kinds of sacrifices for us but are we willing to do the same?
TALK IS CHEAP... ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS...
People find it hard to believe when they find out that I take my mom to the movies... sometimes alone, sometimes with Ayue... I do...
My love for my mom was not always as strong as it is now. As I was growing up, I hated my parents... no kidding... I hated them... I am the second of 3 siblings... my elder brother has always been my mom's favorite and my younger brother has always been my late father's favorite. I... was the dark, f-ugly and quiet one... and I felt that I was always bullied.
When I reached my late twenties... I realized that the upbringing my parents provided me, though hard as hell... made me what I am today. Everything that I have to be proud of I have them to thank.
My mom calls me frequently as I am the only one who still resides here in Malaysia. Sometimes she calls me when I am in meetings... and I can't take her call but I ALWAYS call her back. Unlike my elder brother...
I have never scolded my mom for asking me for money. I do question her sometimes (politely) on what she needs it for and such but never ever scolded her... unlike my siblings.
My mom knows that she can always call me... I make sure of that... she once asked me... Am I annoying by calling you so frequently? And I said... NO... not at all... if you don't call me, who are you going to call? Ghostbusters? :)
Don't just tell the people that you love that you love them... show them... a simple phone call can do wonders... a simple meal or drink would bring tears... there are many ways of showing your love... don't just say it. This applies to everyone whom we love dearly... not just our parents.
But for our parents... they should be at the top of the pedestal... second only to God Almighty.
I have always believed in karma... and trust me, it exists... and I am speaking through first hand experience... I paid... in cash... and I am still paying.
That is why I try very, very hard to make sure that whatever that I do for my parents is the BEST that I can do... I am extremely fearful of having ungrateful children.
And since it is Mothers' Day today... do something special for your mom. Show her your love... not just say it... anyone can say it... talk is cheap... actions speak louder than words... show her your heart... and when you're done... show the others that you love your love too.
